Postpartum is a joyous time and a time of familial upheaval. There is a lot that you can do to make the rough spots a bit smoother, and most of them have to do with planning ahead! Here are some tips from other families:
- Make a list of things that need to be done. If you're too shy to ask for help simply produce the list for family and visitors who ask if they can help in some way. Examples of things that might be listed: errands, small household jobs, meals, etc.
- If you have other children, write a list of their schedules. It's hard enough to keep track of your life with the new baby. Simply make a calendar for the week so you'll know who has chess club or soccer practice when. It's also helpful to see if other moms will trade car pool for the first few weeks.
- While everyone says to just let the house work go, many of us have problems actually doing this. Sitting down to discuss potential changes and alternatives prior to the birth is a great idea. It might also be something that you decide to get some extra help with. You can use a cleaning service, or a postpartum doula to help with these activities, or even bartering with a friend for some light house hold chores can be beneficial.
- Stock up! Get commonly used products in bulk, like toothpaste and toilet paper. (Guys, don't skimp and get the cheap toilet paper, this is one time in your life to get the real stuff!) This ensures you don't run out during those first few weeks. Sometimes the more you buy the less expensive it is.
- Like household items, food can be cooked ahead of time, however, most of us don't have a lot of storage space. Another list of places that have nice take out foods or delivery is handy for emergencies. You might also make mental note of which stores provide bulk foods or party sized platters of foods that can be heated and served easily and last more than one meal! Similarly, if you have family, friends, or anyone willing to cook for you take them up on the offer. Don't be afraid to let your eating preferences be known.
- Visitors can be a lot of fun, although they can also be very draining in the early days. Feel free to leave an answering machine message with the details you'd like known available, and a quick message about when you'll be taking visitors. Signs on the door work well too. Many hospitals will automatically provide them for you, why not try this at home too? A simple "Baby and Mom Napping" works very well.
When all is said and done this time will be one of very special memories. Just try to remember to reduce your stress levels anyway you can.
